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• XXBN Post Cult of Gracie Radio With Dr. Susan Block tinyurl.com/5mh6df #
• Was smoking a cig & solved all of world's problems; then I came back into the house & forgot just what it was... Hate when that happens. #
• Oh yeah, "and don't smoke, kids." #

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Links for 2008-08-29 [del.icio.us] Posted: 30 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Modern Woman Monday: Bra Retardation Is Real People Vintage bra ad vs. Oprah. Being Amber Rhea » Blog Archive » On Tumblr, I reblogged this. Smart words about “oversharing” (I am so sick of that term). This is where the people formerly known as the audience get a front seat in our own lives, as writers, producers, creatives, insert overplayed word you're too scared to apply to yourself and your work here.

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• @JessicaWakeman Really?! Tell yer ma that I'll kick her ass ~ wait, she might like that... I'll take away her lingerie, that'll teach her! #
• Sex~Kitten: Sugasm #144 : Sugasm's back, baby! tinyurl.com/5zv7hx #
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• @amberlrhea You don't know who Michael McDonald is? You young pup! Doobie Bros & Steely Dan! #
• Retweeting @DPopTart : LOL Hey, Little Spaceman : tinyurl.com/5f7zr6 #
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• @RedLightChicago You'd better be right ~ or I'm moving further north to Canada. #
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• @Joliedupre That's why I picked that card! Amazing, speech, wasn't it? I love America! #
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Links for 2008-08-27 [del.icio.us] Posted: 28 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Washington Interns Gone Bad: Carnival of the Liberals #72 And being smack dab in the middle of the Democratic convention in the last months of what many are saying could be the most important and historic election of our lifetime, that means it's going to be a thrill ride of left-leaning political bloggy goodness. Controlling Parts Is Controlling The Sum Of Its Parts - Sex~Kitten.net For the most part, the voices of women are viewed as the chatter of children -- and just as dismissed. Obama on Abortion: Reviewing the Issue Responsibly and Legally Obama's approach to abortion is complicated, moderate, and responsibly addresses the need for a compromise between total reproductive freedom, and respect for life. Barack Obama | Women for Obama Issues Where Obama stands Iowa Independent " Blogger Kyle Payne sentenced to six months in county jail Thank goodness he got something! What to Expect When You're Aborting "I'm 23. I'm knocked up. And I don't want to keep it. You can fuck yourself, Judd Apatow."

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• @audaciaray There's a general discomfort w/ strong women, from all genders. That's the damn danger in the crap; the bs fools & hurts all. #
• Four More Months. #
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• @Orchardo You are such a cynic ;) #
• It's such an emotional day here. And by "here", I mean Me. #
• The combination of Meatloaf and politics is making me melancholy. #
• Bush & McCain: The two sides of Snidely Whiplash's moustache. #
• @TKPope The "I Want You, I Need You, But There Ain't No Way..." just slices too accurately :sigh: #
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It's Convention Time, So...

Abortion is in the air, or it should be.

The right to have, the very right to make the choice, is a very important issue. It's tied to more than (perceived promiscuous) human sexuality; it's a matter of health, an education issue, and a freakin' human rights issue.

As DeeDee wrote, "The right to choose [is] about more than abortion; not having the right to choose undermines all our choices and our right to live autonomous lives."

Read it and see why; I'm going to take another argument.

When the religious wrong say they want to legislate their beliefs in the name of religious freedom, they are doing the opposite; they enforce their faith on others.

What's more, we don't make our laws based on spiritual practices, especially those which are speculative.

While it should be enough to say that that a fetus isn't an individual being with rights simply because it isn't an individual being, only kept alive by the host (pregnant woman), it apparently isn't. While it should be enough to argue that they cannot prove any claims to "soul" or other "godly" part or intervention, it isn't. The religious oppressors want to us to follow be forced to believe as they do ~ and like intelligent design, we are supposed to buy it not only just on their word but against all scientific proof and reason. They think that their 'word' is 'law' and so it should be my word and The Law. But we don't legislate that way. At least we aren't supposed to.

An example of how we don't fall for such silliness is illustrated in the eating of pigs. The eating of pig meat is (in some religions) a sin; but there is no law making it illegal for me to eat it. Many are wise enough to not legislate the eating of pig, but rather relax in the belief that my punishment awaits me in the afterlife. That's real faith, waiting for that day when the supreme being of that faith will handle things.

The message to not eat pig meat, along with your pro-life message, is out there; I've heard them loud and clear ~ but I just don't buy 'em. So let me make my own choice; I'll be the one to live (or "spend eternity") with the consequences. Leave the law out of it.

"But, Gracie," you whine, "A pig isn't a baby!"

Damn right it isn't.

Eating a pig, even including cooking it, doesn't force a person to serve the same time as pregnancy, let alone the time and dangers of childbearing & child rearing. Yes, I said "dangers." Science, if you care to believe in facts, proves that the eating of pig-flesh has little-to-no physical dangers, especially when compared to pregnancy & childbirth.

And the real point here is that you can't legally stop me from eating pork because the only problem with it is that your 'good book' says there is a problem ~ and that's not enough to warrant any legislation.

If you're thinking this all supports your theory that pregnancy, the fetus, i.e. 'the baby', must be protected, I'm going to accuse of the same supersedence DeeDee did. What makes you presume that the unborn have greater rights than those already here? It's that sort of stupid thinking that got us Israel & into the mess in the Middle East.

Whatever happened to "one in the hand is worth two in the bush"? Don't the living matter? We're here. Now. But you'd rather focus on the fetus & what it might do. We don't legislate & prosecute "mights".

I'm here. I have rights. Or at least I'm supposed to.

Already you deny my freedom, dismiss my need for health care, reject my financial equality & limit means to support myself, and in doing so, remove my autonomy. (You might want to think about those issues and wonder just how much they impact my decision not to have a child.) And now I'm supposed to turn my body over as a host for something or someone you believe in?

And that reminds me, along with your belief in 'the baby', where's your concern for it once it arrives? Where's its health care? Where's its stable home, future financial independence &/or equality? What of its freedom & equality?

I guess in that (lack of) respect, the unborn & I have the same value.

Hillary Clinton, Class All The Way

Hillary, I love you.

From her convention speech:

I want you to ask yourselves: Were you in this campaign just for me? Or were you in it for that young Marine and others like him? Were you in it for that mom struggling with cancer while raising her kids? Were you in it for that boy and his mom surviving on the minimum wage? Were you in it for all the people in this country who feel invisible?

We need leaders once again who can tap into that special blend of American confidence and optimism that has enabled generations before us to meet our toughest challenges. Leaders who can help us show ourselves and the world that with our ingenuity, creativity, and innovative spirit, there are no limits to what is possible in America.

This won't be easy. Progress never is. But it will be impossible if we don't fight to put a Democrat in the White House.

We need to elect Barack Obama

As if I wasn't already emotional... & eating comfort food. The following had me weeping ~ my heart (and tummy) so heavy, so full...

I'm a United States Senator because in 1848 a group of courageous women and a few brave men gathered in Seneca Falls, New York, many traveling for days and nights, to participate in the first convention on women's rights in our history.

And so dawned a struggle for the right to vote that would last 72 years, handed down by mother to daughter to granddaughter - and a few sons and grandsons along the way.

These women and men looked into their daughters' eyes, imagined a fairer and freer world, and found the strength to fight. To rally and picket. To endure ridicule and harassment. To brave violence and jail.

And after so many decades - 88 years ago on this very day - the 19th amendment guaranteeing women the right to vote would be forever enshrined in our Constitution.

My mother was born before women could vote. But in this election my daughter got to vote for her mother for President.

This is the story of America. Of women and men who defy the odds and never give up.

How do we give this country back to them?

By following the example of a brave New Yorker , a woman who risked her life to shepherd slaves along the Underground Railroad.

And on that path to freedom, Harriett Tubman had one piece of advice.

If you hear the dogs, keep going.

If you see the torches in the woods, keep going.

If they're shouting after you, keep going.

Don't ever stop. Keep going.

If you want a taste of freedom, keep going.

Even in the darkest of moments, ordinary Americans have found the faith to keep going.

I've seen it in you. I've seen it in our teachers and firefighters, nurses and police officers, small business owners and union workers, the men and women of our military - you always keep going.

We are Americans. We're not big on quitting.

But remember, before we can keep going, we have to get going by electing Barack Obama president.

Just to be clear, I will be voting for Obama.

But I still wish she was the Democrat candidate. And I still don't understand why she's not on the ticket.

Delicious Links (Catching Up)

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Links for 2008-08-21 [del.icio.us] Posted: 22 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Silent-Porn-Star: Women As Stocking Victims We women aren't only fools for fashion, willing to prostitute ourselves for material goods, but we are such delicate things that we can be exploited for them even without intending to be. Silent-Porn-Star: The Offensive Breast because nipples cannot be seen even in medical books. They must only be found in men's mags and National Geographic; a rule that still applies today, no matter how antiquated and foolish. Good Girl's Don't - Sex~Kitten.net Silent Porn Star has The Knack for getting personal. Soft Skull News: BusinessWeek nails it I don't know what it says that BusinessWeek just generated one of the best summaries of what trade book publishing can be doing. Links for 2008-08-22 [del.icio.us] Posted: 23 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Sex,Life & Frilly Bits: On Abortion & Bloggers That Write About Abortion Before you discuss abortion, please make it clear whether you're male or female and if you have experienced an abortion because if your information is based on third party assumptions, I really don't want to waste my time reading hypotheticals – because it insults my intelligence (as a woman who has had an abortion). Links for 2008-08-25 [del.icio.us] Posted: 26 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Radical Vixen » Blog Archive » Sex Work And Compassion: Panty Tree Seeing Panty Tree's vulnerability made me realize the value of my work. I was there to fulfill his fantasy yes. But I was also there to validate him as a person and to validate his desires. Italian priest to organize 'beauty contest' for nuns: 'Miss Sister 2008' "We are not going to parade nuns in bathing suits," Rungi said by telephone from his town of Mondragone. "But being ugly is not a requirement for becoming a nun. External beauty is gift from God, and we mustn't hide it." Links for 2008-08-26 [del.icio.us] Posted: 27 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Anti-Relationship, Much? - Sex~Kitten.net Why are we, as a culture, so dismissive towards the concept of people deciding to become close and intimate with one another, and I'm not just talking about sex here, either. Dear Boyfriends I Had When I Was In My Twenties - Sex~Kitten.net And then I realized that this open letter of apology wasn't (only) for my past boyfriends; it was, or should be, directed to my body.

Jeremy Edwards Joins The Cult

This week's Cult of Gracie Radio has the wildly talented (and mildly mad) Jeremy Edwards to discuss not only his own written erotic works, but the Ultimate Burlesque anthology.

The Ultimate Burlesque anthology, edited by Alyson Fixter & Emily Dubberley, is the teaserotic September release (published by Xcite Books) that is part of Burlesque Against Breast Cancer. Proceeds from the book will help raise money for Macmillan Cancer Support.

To tempt you into purchasing, Jeremy will be reading an excerpt from Laura The Laugher, his contribution to the book, live on the air!

While the stories in the anthology do more than tease, the part Jeremy will be reading will be teasing, tempting, and fun, but not explicit ~ just like burlesque. *wink*

We hope this helps you support a great book ~ and for a great cause.

So tune in to Cult of Gracie on XXBN, Wednesday night, August 27, at 9 PM (Central) for an hour long show.

As always, you can join the fun by calling in at 1.646.200.3136.

Twitter Tweats

• @essinem I turn it into gushing teen-age adoration. It may be unwanted but at least it moves me past intimidation & I can *do* something #
• @eden_delight Dear, I loves it ~ pls reply to email with bio asap! #
• Trying to schedule radio guests is even more tricky than the herding cats job of SK writers. I must be missing many organization genes. #
• @essinem I've heard that about myself too ~ I think strong women just "do that" to people. The gushing thing helps but... TBC #
• @essinem But then you can get kicked for gushing too. You should know by now, that being a strong women isn't easy. :p #
• @audaciaray I has comment envy. #
• Was just told I "can't just get up and walk away without a twitter"; so here's my g'bye for now. #
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• @Orchardo Oh No He Di-in't! #
• Thursdays are kinda my day off... I'm a little off, and it's a day. But there's quite the hub-bub, bub. #
• Thanks to @Frauenfelder for the @BoingBoing linkage! (Congrats to @SilentPornStar for the grande article ~ so worthy of a mention!) #
• @eden_delight Sure! Emails me at Gracie.Passette@gmail.com hun :) #
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• As a visual person, when y'all change your icons, I gets confused. Just sayin' #

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• XXBN Post Cult Of Gracie Radio With Shon Richards tinyurl.com/6r8kwp #
• Time for a Cold Case re-run & then fall asleep. Maybe even fall asleep during the show, insomnia willing. #
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• @CallieSimms Can't direct message you??! #
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• @tastytrixie "Being a shitty housekeeper would be ok if I didn't feel so ashamed for people to see it." Thought for a minute I wrote that! #
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• @amberlrhea That will lower my stats at all sites considerably today then :p Seriously, I do hope you feel better soon. #
• When I see spam that says my ad can be on 2 mil websites, I wonder just how small that drop in the bucket is... #
• @CallieSimms I am so happy for ~ and excited by! ~ you. What a wonderful feeling! #
• Still wondering why there are so few male PSOs... CR/LF doesn't have the time... I and others have the dime. #
• On the phone with LF's assistant. That's all I dare to admit. Well, that and sweaty armpits. #
• Nina Hartley has just confirmed she'll be on the last hour of XXBN's election night coverage. Rock! #
• @CallieSimms Does being on the list get me more pictures to enjoy? :p Hugs ~ and a kiss where you like it too ;) #
• What are they doing to Clue? tinyurl.com/6dhrmy Oh the horror. #
• Laughing at @amberlrhea who is laughing at me. It is contagious! #
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• Must dash to buy cigs. #
• @audaciaray Sorry 'bout Naked City. Maybe it means a bigger better window is about to open! #
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Links for 2008-08-20 [del.icio.us] Posted: 21 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Erotiterrorist: Radio News and Clue Hasbro is declaring the Agatha Christie period of murder mystery dead by updating Clue. No longer will there be Professors and Colonels, they have been replaced with athletes and tabloid stars. The murder takes place at a modern mansion that has a spa and a theater. There are now nine weapons and the lead pipe is gone. More disturbing to me is the introduction of a second deck of cards that can kill off players later in the game.

Feminist Blogger?

Jessie Daniels, PhD is starting "an interview project with bloggers who identify as 'feminist,' however they define that term." Are you one? Then participate in this survey.

Shon Richards Joins The Cult Tonight

Tonight at 9 pm (central), on Cult of Gracie Radio, Gracie Passette talks with erotica author, smut collector, charming cad, & intriguing rogue, Shon Richards.

Factory worker by night, erotica author by day, Shon Richards has described himself as "a strange, tortured soul." Typically his adult stories combine use sensitivity & romance to deal with tough relationship issues ~ and of course, everyone screws like banshees too.

Isn't that how we all solve our tough relationship issues?

In fact, it might very well be banshees ~ or vampires, ninjas, or industrial espionage agents ~ screwing their way to relationship bliss in Richards' stories. Just as long as those females wear spandex. Or leather. Or chain mail. Some sort of kitschy erotic garb straight out of male (and female) fantasies.

Because that's partly what erotica is about, the escapist stuff. If we wanted to just read about relationship issues we'd get Mars & Venus or some Dr. Phil article in O; but we want erotica to be at least partly fantasy. It's through the combination of fantasy adventure and human emotion that we find ourselves getting our lust-thang on.

At least that's my take on it. We'll have to see if Shon Richards agrees.

You can add your two cents to the discussion too. Just call in during the show at 1.646.200.3136.

After the show, you can also download the podcast here.

Today's Delicious Links

Links for 2008-08-19 [del.icio.us] Posted: 20 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Is the print book destined for death? « Mitzi Szereto’s Weblog So before we go starting up a Kindle fatwah, we need to gain some perspective. People who like print books will always buy print books. The marketplace cannot ignore such a large percentage of readers. However, those who prefer the transportability, the varied features, and the ability to store a multitude of titles, not to mention being able to bookmark them, will add the Kindle to their reading repetoire. Official Google Blog: Time to "Free the Airwaves" For quite some time we've been talking about the potential of the unused airwaves between broadcast TV channels ("white spaces") to provide affordable, high-speed wireless Internet connectivity nationwide. For this to happen, the Federal Communications Commission (FCC) must allow unlicensed use of this spectrum. If you care about the future of the Internet, now is the time to take action. The FCC has completed its field testing and is expected to make a ruling in the coming months. A Slip of a Girl: Too Hot For Teacher ~ A Slip Of A Girl's Ultimate Guide To Putting On Hose While I've written this for help with the summer heat issues of hosiery in mind, please note that this works equally wonderfully in all seasons. Waking Vixen " Blog Archive " I Meet the Business End of Citibank's Anti-Adult Business Policy "In a situation like this, I essentially have no legal recourse - the Citibank policy doesn't go against any protected rights. Businesses are totally within their rights to discriminate against people who work in any sector of the adult industry, regardless of the legality of that work. But I can (and did) take my money elsewhere, and I told them exactly why." the wheels come off — day 5 - After Hours| random discourse from a retired escort "Drunk people with issues is one of the reasons I burned out on stripping. This is even scarier to me because the system has forced me to depend on these people for my safety. There is no safety if their minds are altered. There is no such thing as a bouncer in this brothel. I wish there were." Serpent Libertine -- Sex Worker Profiles: Amanda Brooks "Amanda is a pretty public figure in terms of sex worker activists. She wrote The Internet Escort's Handbook, is a member of SWOP-EAST, and has appeared on Fox News and Bill O' Reilly."

Twitter Tweats

• I need to sit my ass in the chair and write. Because I have a lot to say. More than Twitter likes. #
• Retweeting @hotdogsladies : Cable TV commercials are made of anxiety, lust, and electrolytes. #
• Now I will leave to write. Honest. #
• Best damn post on hosiery. Ever. tinyurl.com/5nlouf #
• @Orchardo I'm not a spin doctor, but I play one on the Internet. :p #
• @shonrichards Thanks, I knew it sure as hell wasn't Twitter lol #
• @Jbsys Without the woman they're not such hot stuff ;) #
• My head hurts. And my heart is heavy. Chicken, meet egg. #
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• @DPopTart That. Is. Crazy. #
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Links for 2008-08-18 [del.icio.us] Posted: 19 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Unfinished Conversations & On The Differences Between Sex & The Intimacy Of Companionship - Sex~Kitten.net Rubbing our parts in robotic electronics, no matter how supple, no matter how able to respond in terms of coos and ooohs, no matter what level of "special order" creation status to match our individual personalities and needs, will not satiate our hunger for real companionship. MotherhoodMetamorphosis: He's Growing Up And I figured at least he was there, with me, having his questions answered & his enthusiasm properly channeled -- without the freak-out to send him into sexual guilt and repression. Aesthetic Response Porn School - Sex~Kitten.net once a week or so I'll be posting an erotic image and ask that we all provide our aesthetic responses to it.

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• @RedLightChicago Review it, duh! #
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• @DPopTart You must post links to this at SK! tinyurl.com/66j49a (The other one too!) Excellent stuff. #
• @museumfreak LOL for the ultimate self-referential web 2.0 loop #
• @museumfreak I'm flattered lol Seriously, the blog feed did that. Technology is regurgitation. #
• @museumfreak The Cult often contains moments of zen ;) #
• Off to edit. More glam than it sounds. #
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• @amberlrhea I hope you feel better soon. (Hugs) #
• @museumfreak Yes, yes I do. And the circle will be more like a spiral, but still unbroken; at the center of which is information implosion. #
• Dudes, I am no longer affiliated with SWOP East; so stop asking me. #
• It was short term; full of sound and fury, signifying nothing. #
• @mlfoley & @TrailerTrashGrl @DPotTart has a sister who has hated Texas since childhood when she declared it too filthy to pee in lol #
• @essinem Maybe those things have changed :P #
• @tastytrixie There's a world offline??! #
• erotica author, smut collector, charming cad, & intriguing rogue @shonrichards On Cult of Gracie Radio Wed tinyurl.com/5vkodp #
• @mydesire That totally ruined the t-shirt and panties image lol #
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Links for 2008-08-17 [del.icio.us] Posted: 18 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Scobleizer — Tech geek blogger » Blog Archive What do the freaking tech bloggers want? « Over the past few days there's been a consternation about the future of PR. Mostly based on my rant about PR the other day and how it's so refreshing to hear about a new company from its users first, especially when those users are very excited about the product. One Life, Take Two Jefferson—blogger, educator, and dear friend to so many of us—is at this moment fighting a court battle with his ex-wife, who is seeking full custody of their three children. Jefferson's love for his children has been well-documented on his blog One Life, Take Two for years. His ex-wife has stated in court that he is a "great" father who loves his children. However, among her claims is that his bisexuality makes him an unfit parent. MotherhoodMetamorphosis: Sex Ed - From The Kid Hands on her hips, she turned to me and said, "I just don't understand why they have to put the fur there."

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• Want to thank @audaciaray for the lovely comment at my Marketing Whore post on blogging tinyurl.com/5prqfk #
• @SilentPornStar Clandestine... That explains the hood I had to wear on the way there ;) #
• @DPopTart Also why I have a cat, not a dog. #
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• Worried about @jillbrenneman #
• @mlfoley I wouldn't take beauty tips from Ernest Borgnine lol #
• @TrailerTrashGrl retweet: People are seriously discussing Ernest Borgnine beaut tips & masturbation while wearing leprechaun hats. #
• @karsh Don't know about Ringman... You do know that Mashi Ra passed away in July, don't you? :( #
• @mlfoley Almost 30 *is* very young lol #
• Disjointed conversation is driving me to smoke. BRB #
• Then again, any excuse for an addict. Carry on. #
• Bad sleeping habits are catching up with me. Someone has put a towel over this hamster's cage. I must sleep. #

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• @Scobleizer I don't know what he invented, but wasn't Ward a little hard on the beaver last night :p #
• Braunschwager on toast with slices of tomato and Miracle Whip. Yummy! #
• @TrailerTrashGrl That's why I have a cat :p #
• @urban_gypsy LOL It would be worse to put torches closer to alcohol soaked hubby ;) #
• Reads Scobleizer talking about reunion & realizes she doesn't know what year she'd be at. That's how much I care for high school years #
• Must be high on braunschwager. Thought I heard @hangfirebooks say he loathes books. #
• Have decided to feed monkey on back & take a smoke break. Realizes, in 3rd person, that many sex positive feminist writers smoke. #
• And will use smoke break to write that article in my head. #
• Happy birthday, @kittenINFINITE ! #
• @RedLightChicago As they should be. #

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Links for 2008-08-15 [del.icio.us] Posted: 16 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Marketing Whore - The Assumptions About Links & Comments Me on Jonathan Morrow's Copyblogger post Why No One Links to Your Best Posts (And What to Do About It). "it is more than misleading, it's based on assumptions that could cost you." Diane Francis: Female Gymnastics Is Always About Child Abuse All females who eventually become world-class gymnasts have been exploited while they are children. I think that competitive female gymnastics is really child abuse and the practice goes on in every country in the world. This is because, for females, developing Gold Medal skills is a race against puberty. Carnival of the Liberals LXXI - Talking Points Edition If the last eight years have taught us anything - a conclusion I assume, because the proof would be difficult - it's that, if your argument can't fit in one crawl of the Fox News ticker, or can't be said by Rush Limbaugh without him having to take a codeine break, it's too complex & elitist to be correct. Bringing liberalism to the masses, then, is this edition of Carnival of the Liberals: talking points edition, with each entry boiled into a sentence-sized blurb, for your mass consumption convenience! Hillary PUMAs - Handmaidens of John McCain, or Weaponized Disappointment? We hear Hillary-or-die movements defended on the grounds that men don't get women's issues. Rationally, it seems that, if women's issues are PUMAs' interest, doing anything to harm Barack Obama, even in the name of getting Hillary on the ticket, is the height of nearsightedness. Larry Flynt: The Right to Be Left Alone Movie Details and Discussion at the Independent Film Channel - IFC.com In a timely response to a current political situation where the fundamental civil rights of Americans are being contested, Joan Brooker-Marks's documentary offers an eye-opening overview of Huster publisher Larry Flynt's long-standing struggles to expand the parameters of free speech and expose the hypocrisy of this country's elected leaders. 'Larry Flynt: The Right to Be Left Alone' - Los Angeles Times With former Playboy philosopher Hugh Hefner having retired to be a bit player in a reality show about his girlfriends, Hustler Publisher Larry Flynt has become the de facto spokesman for politically progressive publishers of what may still be called "men's magazines."

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• XXBN Post Hey, Stooopid Bush Administration, Birth Control Is NOT Abortion tinyurl.com/6hmrrj #
• With all due respect to @copyblogger, I'm really disappointed with that article by Morrow tinyurl.com/5prqfk #
• @audaciaray That banking situation sucks. #
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• Marketing Whore Says This Week's Links: This week's marketing links from my De.. tinyurl.com/55j9zu #
• @larryflynt retweet: The only question to ask yourself is, how much are you willing to sacrifice to achieve this success? #
• Oh thank gawd I hear his tires on the gravel drive ~ my tummy was about to digest itself & he's bringing dinner! #
• Sugasm is back up, but weeks behind... #
• Cult Of Gracie Today's Delicious Links: Today's Delicious Links Links for 2008-08-14.. tinyurl.com/6q86y7 #
• Cult Of Gracie Twitter Tweats: Can anybody recommend to @hangfirebooks Twitter deskt.. tinyurl.com/55yj5j #
• He sits 4 ft behind me with his headphone on listening to tunes. Does he not know that he is the one who left TV on?? :sigh: Men. #
• @scarletlotus reminds you to take a break from the computer to reduce eye strain is.gd/1zcU Would also serve as a cig break reminder #
• @xenijardin "i only give a shit about "manga" when it's a bostonian trying to pronounce the name of a popular, sweet tropical fruit" ROFL #
• Spitz either loves the word "epic" or has stroke saying it. #
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• Can anybody recommend to @hangfirebooks Twitter desktop interfaces? He's trying Twitterlicious but not getting updates... #
• @Jbsys Thanks, I'll pass it along to @hangfirebooks ! #
• @hangfirebooks ~ @Jbsys says to try TweetDeck, it's in Beta. www.tweetdeck.com #
• retweet from @MarketingProfs More on blogs: Do you worry about the legal ramifications of blogging? tinyurl.com/6jbax8 #
• @hangfirebooks Memory issues? You or the puter? :p I don't know anything about these tools ~ I use Firefox and keep a tab at Twitter open. #
• May or may not be relevant... Esp to Edwards "scandal" tinyurl.com/62bq45 (kinda like a re-run lol) #
• @AustinCline That (Death Before Tolerance or Equality: little b.. tinyurl.com/589pof ) is just the grandest thing you wrote! #
• @AustinCline First isn't always the best; you said it well. And people need reminders ~ there's so much to consume. #
• @TrailerTrashGrl LOL #
• @audaciaray Congrats! #
• retweet from @nprpolitics : Clinton's Name To Be Placed In Nomination tinyurl.com/6jor64 #
• XXBN Post Tropical Update with XXBN Crown Weather forecaster Rob Lightbown tinyurl.com/696yhf #
• Yippie! A night at home to watch Burn Notice! #
• Cult Of Gracie Twitter Tweats: Hey, my Nina Hartley show is featured on BlogTalkRadi.. tinyurl.com/57mabv #
• Cult Of Gracie Today's Delicious Links: Today's Delicious Links Links for 2008-08-13.. tinyurl.com/5we9wq #
• @violetblue Can't decide if that corp is cool, or creepy. #
• @jillbrenneman Oh, I hope Jilli is OK! (You too, dear) #

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Links for 2008-08-14 [del.icio.us] Posted: 15 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Hey Blogger, Are You Ready for the Lawsuit? | Marketing Profs Daily Fix Blog When a journalist takes on a company, brand, individual or other entity -- they are protected by the big media companies that employ them. Bloggers, not so much MarketingProfs Knowledge Exchange : Ethics of blogging My company just started a blog, and I found some issues to write about that I think are important to the industry. However, when I visited my competitor's websites to find more ideas I noticed some of their blogs aren't really what I think a blog would be. They are more like FAQ's pasted onto a blog. This got me thinking are there really any ethics or guidelines to blogging? » legal part II - After Hours| random discourse from a retired escort A certain type of man goes to a brothel. I haven't figured out their psychology yet. But most of them are indeed truckers or men of a lower class. At least at Bella's. It is probably different from brothel to brothel. Death Before Tolerance or Equality Perhaps we should instead adopt a "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy for bigots: no one will inquire about whether you are a bigot, but you also can't go around expressing bigotry.

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Links for 2008-08-13 [del.icio.us] Posted: 14 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT MoveOn.org Urges Opposition to HHS Regulations Redefining Contraception as Abortion | Reproductive Health | RHRealityCheck.org Can you imagine living in a place where birth control is considered an "abortion" and health insurers won't cover it?

Twitter Tweats

• Hey, my Nina Hartley show is featured on BlogTalkRadio ~ thanks @blogtalkradio ! #
• @KellyShibari As do I ~ hope you'll call in! #
• XXBN Post Thanks, BlogTalkRadio! tinyurl.com/5d6kec #
• Cult Of Gracie Twitter Tweats: Cult Of Gracie Twitter Tweats: Sex~Kitten: Responses .. tinyurl.com/5wyfqn #
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• Cult Of Gracie Birth Control Is NOT Abortion, Assholes: Too lazy to type up more tha.. tinyurl.com/6yxaxl #
• @RedLightChicago Did you hook this up in the SK boards? #
• @wilw Bush's involvement: It's the last thing any of us or any thing needs. #
• Sex~Kitten: Contraception Is Abortion??! : Too lazy to type up more than this ~ and i.. tinyurl.com/6klz4y #
• Just 30 minutes til the interview with Nina Hartley! tinyurl.com/57c5av #
• Totally awesome ~that's for you @SilentPornStar ~ show with Nina Hartley. #
• Even the discussion between "porn star" and "self proclaimed Christian doing a soft-sell on Jesus" was grande ~ an actual discussion. #
• But I *do* need to learn how to cut 'em off better; and insert station ID etc. Screw it; the guest is more interesting. #
• XXBN Post UP the Hill With Zack and Jill tinyurl.com/6nrbbo #

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Birth Control Is NOT Abortion, Assholes

Too lazy to type up more than this ~ and it will be cross-posted "everywhere" ~ but I just signed the emergency message to Health and Human Services Secretary Mike Leavitt, whose department is considering this stuoopid rule change and here's the quick cut & paste letter to forward:

Subject: Contraception is abortion?

Hi,

I had to share something with you. Can you imagine living in a place where birth control is considered an "abortion" and health insurers won't cover it? Where even rape victims are denied emergency contraception?

It seems unbelievable, but the Bush Administration is quietly trying to redefine "abortion" to include birth control. The Houston Chronicle says this could wipe out dozens of state laws that protect women's reproductive freedom and protect rape victims. And this proposed "rule change" doesn't need congressional approval.

I just signed a message to Health and Human Services Secretary Mike Leavitt, whose department is considering this rule change, telling him: "Contraception is NOT abortion." Can you add your voice to this cause? Click here to sign the message: http://pol.moveon.org/contraception/?r_by=-9950595-JRzmsAx&rc=paste

Thanks!

Sign it, or suffer the horrors.

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Links for 2008-08-12 [del.icio.us] Posted: 13 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Parapsychology & Skepticism: How and Why Skeptics Critique the Claims of Parapsychology "Being "open-minded" is usually a matter of withholding belief until sufficient evidence warrants belief while also not being prejudiced against belief; yet in parapsychology, something different seems to be meant."

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• Cult Of Gracie Twitter Tweats: Sex~Kitten: Responses To Porn : Looking at porn past .. tinyurl.com/6ap98c #
• Cult Of Gracie Today's Delicious Links: Today's Delicious Links Links for 2008-08-11.. tinyurl.com/6yugf2 #
• @BitchBuzz My consistent vote would be Bush. #
• Getting some crazy-good questions/discussion points for the show with Nina Hartley. I just wish these folks would call in with them too. #
• Holly Hunter's voice... 1 part abrasive = "Distinctive" #
• @RedLightChicago Does that mean you are "nervously twittering"? lol #
• Servers are back to properly functioning at SK. :sigh: Technology is only as perfect as the beings who created it. #
• Just a reminder: Petition to decriminalize prostitution in San Francisco espu-ca.org/wp/?page_id=173 #
• What's going on with Sugasm? #
• @ellie_lumpesse Hi pot, it's me, kettle. :p #
• @amberlrhea Heavens, why, dear? You are glorious! But of course you can have a hug, if you need it. #
• Sex~Kitten: Want To Talk To Nina Hartley? I Do! : I've got two words for you for this.. tinyurl.com/5drbsz #
• @shonrichards You should call in & tell her that. ;) #
• @uncool01 Do you mean it this time, or should I let another 2 hours pass and then believe it? ;) #

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Links for 2008-08-11 [del.icio.us] Posted: 12 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Sex Workers´ Declaration at the 2008 International Aids Conference in Mexico | Sex Workers Outreach Project Recognition of sex work as work. XXBN: Cult Of Gracie Radio Presents One Of The Foremost Activists For Sexual Pleasure I've got two words for you for this week's Cult of Gracie show: Nina Hartley. Catalina Loves » Blog Archive » Catalina loves Her Daughter - Buy a Raffle Ticket to Win one of Many Great Prizes! I've never discussed this on my blog before, but recent developments have prompted me to discuss the reason why I'm no longer a teacher. Being Catalina isn't always a good thing. I separated early this year with my school as a peaceful way to avoid a public scandal that would ultimately affect my teenage daughter, who attended said school.

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• Sex~Kitten: Responses To Porn : Looking at porn past the trite "I like it" .. tinyurl.com/68buc3 #
• Cult Of Gracie Today's Delicious Links: Today's Delicious Links Links for 2008-08-09.. tinyurl.com/6zwyuf #
• @swop retweet: Sex Workers´ Declaration at the 2008 International Aids Conference in Mexico: Declaració.. tinyurl.com/5okvf7 #
• Cult Of Gracie Twitter Tweats: @Xof Re: politics rules I'm all for respectful politi.. tinyurl.com/5npx3e #
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• I am the only one with working gmail ~ I am a goddess! #
• @mydesire Excellent for us ~ and such pleasant company too ;) #
• @CurvaceousDee Aww, now I wish it was my bedtime. Enjoy (but know I am simply green with envy!) #
• @amberlrhea LOL I've been saying that for years ~ maybe I need to put that up at Cult of Gracie :p #
• XXBN Post Cult Of Gracie Radio Presents One Of The Foremost Activists For Sexual Pleasure tinyurl.com/58hld6 #
• @shonrichards Link please? (I can't explain what happened when I read that -- HOT!) #
• @ellie_lumpesse What does it make me if I'm wet over that? :p #
• @bbcworld retweet: Rape victim overturns ruling that her compensation should be reduced because due to drinking tinyurl.com/5fgdky #
• Cult Of Gracie Nina Hartley Joins The Cult ~ Of Gracie: This week, Wednesday, August.. tinyurl.com/63sqy6 #
• @RedLightChicago OMG I feel so bad for you. How's about a hug? #
• @karsh What are they recruiting you for? :eyebrow wiggle: lol #

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Nina Hartley Joins The Cult ~ Of Gracie

This week, Wednesday, August 13th at 9 PM (central), on Cult of Gracie Radio I'm interviewing the lovely Nina Hartley.

(If you know little about Hartley, you can get some basic info on her tremendous career here at the XXBN blog.)

I'm a huge fan of Nina Hartley's ~ something she must know by now in the few telephone conversations we've had scheduling the show. I'm impressed with her valiant advocacy as a leader in the sex positivity movement. Her history as a sex positive feminist includes:

* Founding the the Feminist Anti-Censorship Task Force, known as FACT.

* Starting the Pink Ladies Social Club, a club which supports women (performers, writers, makeup artists, directors etc.) who works in the adult industry and works to fight the stereotype of female sex workers as bimbos &/or victims coerced by men into humiliating themselves.

* Being a member of the Board of Directors for the Woodhull Freedom Foundation, an organization that works to advance sexual freedom as a fundamental human right by protecting and advancing freedom of speech and sexual expression), but with her wisdom in faith and religion.

Hartley is also to be acknowledged for her wisdom in other areas, such as faith and religion. Here's a bit from Sheldon Ranz's interview with her in Shmate: A Magazine of Progressive Jewish Thought, Issue #22, Spring 1989, pp. 15 - 29.

SHELDON: How do you feel today about being Jewish?

NINA: I feel very lucky. I believe very strongly in the heritage of Jews as educators. I feel very strongly of the fact that if it wasn't for the Jews, half the world would still be illiterate. Along with the Diaspora -- the spreading of Jews all over the world -- came the spreading of reading and writing all over the world. I'm extremely proud of my people's contribution to world knowledge. Certainly, the basis of Judaism, in questioning and analyzing, has stood well. I would like to know about Jewish religion as history....but as an atheist, I see no reason to practice any religion -- Judaism, Christianity, any religion -- because it is organized superstition and it certainly is the opiate of the masses. There's no doubt about that in my mind. As history, in the history of the world, Jewish history is very important.

You can listen to the show live here. (If you missed the show, the same link will let you listen to the archived show & download the podcast.) As always, live on-air calls will be taken at 1.646.200.3136.

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Links for 2008-08-10 [del.icio.us] Posted: 11 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Homophobia & Katy Perry: Its just a joke… « Hanging Around On The Wrong Side Of The World (still) The songs each play on tropes of homophobia that are common in daily life but considered to be 'harmless'. The first being the use of 'gay' as an insult akin to 'stupid' or 'sucky', the second being the idea that (pretty) straight girls kissing is hot as long as its aimed at turning on men. GlobalComment » Russia and Georgia: Darkness Falls Here are two things you ought to know about the conflict flaring up between Russia and Georgia Writing sex and parenting - dangerous but essential | Sex In The Public Square There are few places where our public and private lives become blended into such ugly displays as they do in custody and divorce proceedings. The current controversy surrounding Jefferson's appeal for support because of a custody challenge that is, at least partly, based on his blogging about his sex life demonstrates that better than almost anything could. Feature Focus: The New Face of Amateur Porn - XBIZ.com While some folks might find this increased level of public acceptance of adult material to be a good thing, it planted the seeds for what this observer sees as potentially being the worst thing to hit adult entertainment since the Meese Commission. Drew Westen: Catching the Wrong John: Why Are the Media Talking about John Edwards' Infidelity If They Aren't Going to Talk about John McCain's? So is lying about an affair a good predictor of other forms of deceit and corruption in office? By all reports George W. Bush has been faithful to his wife. If only he had been so faithful to the Constitution, the American people, and those silly little things we have in this country called laws.

Twitter Tweats

• @Xof Re: politics rules I'm all for respectful political discussion. I have to if I want sex work & sex issues to get any attention/change. #
• @shonrichards I loves it when folks start to see the crap we women have been dealing with for centuries ;) #
• @shonrichards Bolyn Girl retweet: Let's see, rape, attempted incest, sisterly betrayal and beheadings. It sucks to be a woman in this movie. #
• @kevinrose Makes ya wonder if Favre does ~ or should too ;) #
• @DPopTart @huffingtonpost retweet Why Are the Media Talking about John Edwards' Infidelity tinyurl.com/69gfuq AMAZING #
• @xenijardin I do not think it's limited to LA either :p #
• So scattered; time for a snack. #

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Links for 2008-08-09 [del.icio.us] Posted: 10 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Who Made Publishers the Morality Police? | BlogHer "Let the books speak for themselves. If you don't want your kid to read a book because of the author's post-publication actions then don't buy it, but you should get to decide what is suitable for your child, not the publisher." Responses To Porn - Sex~Kitten.net Looking at porn past the trite "I like it" or the dogmatic "It's oppressive" brings down holy hellfire for sex bloggers. And I could just leave it at that, but I won't.

Twitter Tweats

• @uncool01 I finally got around to a post re: the crapfest: tinyurl.com/6lb97g #
• @DPopTart Color me jealous! #
• Why do people think they have the right to judge Elizabeth for Edwards affair? It's her choice to proceed with her marriage as she wishes. #

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Links for 2008-08-08 [del.icio.us] Posted: 09 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT NPR: Get My Vote NPR and public media want to hear about the concerns and convictions that motivate you in this election. Politics, as we say, is personal. Tell us about the issues that have touched your life. Silent-Porn-Star: On The Death Of Playgirl Playgirl, it is rumored -- but not confirmed, officially bites the dust, or at least will have the sheet pulled over it's non-seeing eyes. Silent-Porn-Star: Caught In A Net Of Irony On the "seemingly strangeness of the fishnet being such a common prop throughout the years" ~ and irony in a vintage Figurette magazine. Not Your Angel: Giving Out Candy As I got older, I also started to notice the ways giving candy changed. XXBN: The Monolith Of Alternative Media: Thoughts On Blogs & Blogging Blog definitions; something I find both interesting and irrelevant. Renegade Evolution: Well, this is why, or so I think... "There's a supposition in that statement that one distinct event affects our life decisions. That statement is, at best, a narrow way of looking at our life choices." Life of Brian Still Banned: Religion and censorship seem to go together like government and bureaucracy. Everywhere you look, there are religious believers expressing greater offense and concern over material or behavior which they find blasphemous than over real human beings dying through starvation and disease, human suffering due to poverty, and so forth. Caring for Your Introvert Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation to a big audience, but seems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk? Womanist Musings So, if you happen to work in the sex-trade you are automatically a "bad person". Good to know, I'll keep that in mind when I try to ignore all the reasons why prostitutes are considered spoiled identities.

Twitter Tweats

• Got a haircut ~ then impulsively colored it too, just add water. (Seriously!) So it's wine with grey streaks for this cougar :p #
• Why is everyone so surprised Edwards had an affair? Power + Loneliness = Coupling Surprised he lied about it? Then stop judging people 4 it #
• Retweet: @SilentPornStar: I'm on Radio Blowfish www.blowfish.com/radio/ Thanks, @BlowfishTwitter & @Xof #
• @Alessia_Brio Ya as if living a political life wasn't already facing a form of death. What an isolated existence lived in a glass fishbowl. #
• @uncool01 May my hugs help you be more of a ducky ~ helping let this roll off your back. It's just crap. I'll blog on it later. #
• @Alessia_Brio Hey, sex pros know ;) Sex workers don't just know anatomy, ya know... #
• @Orchardo I've missed you! #
• @DPopTart It's Xpressive by Bigen (V-7 Fine Wine, specifically) #
• Congrats retweet for @DPotTart ~ made @BoingBoing : tinyurl.com/5qomz7 Thanks @Frauenfelder :) #
• @GoodVibesSF 's 15% Anal Sex Sale sounds like an instruction. I need more caffeine... And a cig. Steppin' out for that... #
• This place is like crack. I need to walk away ~ and lock the door, hiding the key. Sheesh! #
• And then there's this... McConaughey to plant placenta in orchard: tinyurl.com/6k633x #
• Aren't you supposed to save the placenta for poss treatment for future medical issues? #
• @kevinrose I'd suggest mine ;) But honestly, if you're into sex history... see @SilentPornStar Her site is fun. Naughty, but fun! #

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Links for 2008-08-07 [del.icio.us] Posted: 08 Aug 2008 12:00 AM CDT Pocket-Book Perversion | ZenFetish From the divinely depraved mind of Porn Person of Prurient Interests, FREEDOM IS SLAVERY features an introduction by none other than myself, as well as pictures of the captivating fetish model, Ms. Elle. A Slip of a Girl: Claims Of Big Britches Make Me Post Big Bitches recent Violet Blue "blog-troversy" in which BoingBoing removed/unpublished/deleted posts of Ms Blue's Polyamorously Perverse: Viviane Should Know Better I'm sure some of you will take the "anything goes, it's the Internet/sex" point of view, and others are possibly friends with Viviane. None of that changes the fact that appealing to this sort of thing is brushing perilously close to kiddie porn. NPR: Public Media Serves Up Election Widgets For Bloggers NPR and a group of our public media partners have created a variety of election-related widgets. Diane Francis: Hillary's 2012 End Game: Part 2 Clearly, the Clintons are aiming for 2012. They began doing so when they turned nasty against Obama during the primary marathon. They are betting, and by so doing they are helping, McCain win a one-term presidency. Internalizing the "Catfight" moniker You are marginalizing yourself, women and mommybloggers when you buy into the trivialization of women's anger or disagreement or debate. Uncool: Inconsistencies and Preconceptions So, I believe that, contrary to some (dick head) arguments, being pro-pornography does not mean you are pro-child pornography. From Del.icio.us to WordPress or Blogger: How to automatically post daily links | PaulSpoerry.com submit all my links using del.icio.us and through some dark magic, have my links automatically posted on different blogs every night. Techno @ VirtualCrux: How to enable del.icio.us daily blog posting to Blogger using FeedBurner del.icio.us daily blog posting is not compatible with Blogger. Here's a solution to this problem using FeedBurner.

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• @SilentPornStar Me too! Long Live TCM! #
• Following @SilentPornStar to bed :p #
• @JessicaWakeman If it's on your head, you'll be OK Elsewhere...? Yeesh. lol #
• @PajamasMedia Are we sure boys just didn't lower their aptitude? And if not, "Wo0t, we still are behind how many countries?" Off to read it #
• @aagblog lol #
• @kevinrose I hear ya on the football thing. Moved from WI to ND, been weird not to have a team ~ but weirder not to have the glut of news #
• @RedLightChicago I'm slow to do things like this ~ not just cuz I'm old, but because MySpace ruined any ideas I had abut social networking. #
• Time to leave the house again today ~ see, I do do that! #
• @uncool01 That's what being rational is: knowing when u're inconsistent and looking at why. Not being some fixed robot spewing the same line #
• The widgets @nprpolitics showcased are awesome! tinyurl.com/5uc4d6 #
• @uncool01 There are many of us who feel that writing/blogging is as much about the discussion with yourself as it is others #
• @uncool01 unexamined life and all that ;) #
• @aagblog You're so right tinyurl.com/64grhw is awesome ~ totally gonna whore it (and give you cred, of course!) #
• Does twitter force one to regress? Limited spaces force slag ~ but the worst part is, I've used "awesome" twice today... Hey there 80's! #
• I want my twitter/tweet back ~ missing "n" is driving me crazy. #
• @SilentPornStar OMG is the new 2 awesomes & a totally. #
• If someone could, pls, explain why anyone uses pop-up ads? And they call me a whore. #
• @raquelita I find if you write confuzzeling, like I do, most readers have their heads quizzically tilted. Will that help your rotation? #
• @ellie_lumpesse that implies the fucking isn't free? #
• @ellie_lumpesse Yeah, true dat; but you can't stop me either :p #
• Wo0t! @GloriaBrame is here! #
• @RedLightChicago Visualize the hard-on; be the hard-on ;) #
• @SilentPornStar My pleasure, babe. #

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• If this turns out to be another myspace dealio I'll hang all of you who invited me here. Truly I will. #
• Preparing for my interview with Mark Pickering: tinyurl.com/6x26ny #
• hate Hate HATE working with publicists rather than the author etc. Author didn't show up for the interview :sigh: #
• @neuralgourmet That's what I was told too lol #
• @neuralgourmet I was talking about the cool kids (and twitter) ~ but that's good to know too ;) #
• @BitchBuzz The Manifesto made me spit dt coke out of my nose! #
• @audaciaray I don't get Facebook either... If I know 'em, why don't they know how to contact me & see my pictures etc? #
• Dude, I just figured out how to make it do that. #
• @audaciaray Totally surprised ~ I would be more inclined to think of you *as* my life coach than as needing one. #

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I Guess I'll Have A Lemon Cookie!

I'm filling in tonight for XXBN's interview with Lemon Cookie (of Runny) tonight at 8/9 pm central/eastern. More info here.

As always, you can listen live, call in with questions & comments at 1.646.2002.3136, and download the archived show/podcast too at this link.

Cult Of Gracie Post-Traumatic Stress Disorders

Wednesday, August 6th, on Cult of Gracie Radio at 9/10 PM Central/Eastern, I'm interviewing Mark Pickering, author of Story of the Sand, a novel which illustrates the world of post-traumatic stress disorder and other often-overlooked struggles veterans face upon their return home.

To prepare for his novel, Pickering conducted in-depth interviews with real-life American war veterans from WWII, Vietnam, the Gulf War, and newly-returned soldiers from the current conflicts in Afghanistan and Iraq; so while Story of the Sand is a novel, we'll also be using this time to discuss what happens to veterans when they return as well as the issues, concerns, & policies surrounding their return. On-air callers are welcome at 1.646.200.3136.

One reviewer, Terri at A Soldier's Mind, wrote:

I almost get the feeling that this novel is an attempt to shout to the world all that Pickering finds wrong with the military and the government, while not addressing the things the military IS doing to address the problems of PTSD and TBI and the substance abuse and homelessness that unfortunately sometimes goes hand in hand with these disorders. The novel doesn’t go into the fact that often those who suffer from these disorders, often don’t see themselves as having a problem and the fact that they often refuse seek treatment for these problems, even when those treatments are readily available to them.

While I agree that the military and the American society needs to do whatever is necessary to ensure that treatment is available for our returning veterans, we also have to acknowledge the fact that the military has stepped up their care for veterans returning and more and more is being done every day, to ensure that our Soldiers and Veterans receive the appropriate care for their problems. New methods of treatment are being explored and those that are proving to be successful are being incorporated into the treatment plans of the Soldiers seeking help.

Story of the Sand, might be an entertaining book to some, however, it covers a subject that I take seriously and I believe that the way it was written does more to cause harm to our Troops suffering from PTSD and other mental disorders related to their time in combat, by possibly causing people to look upon our returning Troops as people who have the extent of problems of the character in this story. I feel this story just detracts from the issue at hand, and will do more harm to our returning Troops, than it will to help them.

I'm going to save my comments on this for the show; but now you know at least some of what's going to be discussed. *wink*

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Dear Mr. President

You can never send him enough letters.

Just Another Great Idea From Cult Of Gracie Radio

When Tom Paine & C. were on the show (you can listen/download here), I told them they should use the Amazon donation system to raise funds to bring Little Witch (of Uncool) to America to play with them. Well, they are doing it!

You can ~ and should ~ donate to the fund here.

It's Not The Number Of Hats...

Writing and blogging at so many sites, having so many projects, it's an awesome mind-f*** some days. Who am I? Where am I? OK, so I always know who I am; but let's be honest, I have a life, duties and several gigs outside of being Gracie Passette.

Gracie is not a persona; but once a sex worker, even if not always a sex worker, you'll either always have a double-life issue or end up simply denying your past. I can't, won't, do the latter; but often I have to compartmentalize my own life into "sex worker" and "non sex worker".

Actually, it would be more accurate to say that much of my life is spent censoring those experiences for the safety of myself and others. Most of my energy, however, is spent trying to diffuse the essence of me into palatable chunks for others ~ and trying to find peace with that.

My thoughts, attitudes and beliefs have been shaped by my experiences, naturally. But unnaturally, I am often unable to defend my passionate stance with evidence because it would be troublesome. It makes for a weak argument, even a weak conversation; so on those occasions I avoid such conversations.

Such muzzling is a choice to protect those in my circle who could be hurt because of my actions. Such consideration & respect for others has little reward other than the self-knowledge that I've taken one for the team. Such love and respect, however, feels disrespectful to myself. I know why I do it; but chafe at the notion that I should have to. Murder and violence are more acceptable than any intimate transaction I've ever had, personal or professional. And I find that more horrific than I can express today (without getting too far astray).

Sometimes I envy those who have one blog/site/project. All the sides of themselves (that they care to share) are in one place; mine are compartmentalized into an array of blogs/sites/projects. It's not just the marketer in me (who, because she's been busy marketing, has had little time to post her thoughts on the process) which arranged things that way; the anthropologist in me knows that such organization is needed for those who are far more able (or willing) to compartmentalize themselves that way.

While I cannot separate my thoughts on human sexuality from my politics, my feminism from my spirituality, my business smarts from my knowledge of what is human in society, many folks prefer such things.

Cult of Gracie started because some regular columnists at Sex Kitten were less than comfortable discussing politics &/or religion at the site. Fearing my strident and opinionated views would be the only views presented & therefore somehow (mistakenly) attributed to "all Sex Kittens", I moved them to their own home. People in the adult industry don't want to dig through erotica, sex how-tos, and personal narratives regarding sex to get to the marketing tips ~ even though such discussion could very well help their business. (Conversely, the people who read erotica, sex how-tos, and personal narratives regarding sex, would be wise to know how their consumer rights are diminished, threatened, and their minds, perhaps, manipulated.) Etc. etc. etc. (And when I work for/with other groups, my own personal views may need to be expressed elsewhere so that I am not appearing to speak for the group ~ or become a space hog with my constant blitherings.)

Because others desire such compartmentalization, even the ability to be linked to by others is affected. Many who link to this blog or to Marketing Whore would not, could not, link to Sex Kitten. Which really is rather absurd when you realize that all the sites have credibility simply because of who I am, what I've done, what I've learned from my experiences, and, most definitely, the opinions I've gleaned from synthesizing it all. But the fact remains: People prefer things neatly compartmentalized.

These are all very practical choices. Choices, like those to remain silent to protect family & friends from bad things & thoughts, I consciously made. But there are days...

Days when I loathe it all. Loathe myself for doing it.

It's not (just) the number of hats vs. time (for that is worth mentioning), but the dilution or diffusion of myself which I despise.

I am not, nor ever will be, as simple as any blog header or columnist profile may suggest.

And my professional Gracie Passette resume isn't even all of me.

When I think of this, I tell myself that many people have the same problem ~ to some degree or other. And just when you'd think that would end my pity party...

It only makes it worse.

I see how women especially live lives in tiny little boxes, keeping or presenting neat & clean versions of themselves to protect and serve others, never really being able to show all their sides ~ letting them reflect upon themselves and upon their own inner light as one big sparkling, multifaceted diamond.

My aversion to such dimming-down of women was largely a part of why I started SK; we shouldn't have to hide/repress/deny the reality of our sexual selves ~ not to be a good daughter, wife, mommy, employee, consumer, or citizen. We are who we are ~ every last bit of it. And we should not have to deny ourselves that.

On days like today, I feel that I am doing just that. I can call it "practical", "considerate", "savvy", "appropriate", or whatever else I like... But I still feel like a hypocrite.

It's not the number of hats I own or even wear; it's that I don't acknowledge them all. Each remains cloistered in a place, a costume, a situation... Relegated, not celebrated.

There are enough valid constraints to me being who I am. Just being a woman in this country which, while it celebrates its self-proclaimed liberation of women in Iraq, denies me & my sisters adequate health access, fundamental rights to control our own bodies, and true equality should be enough to make me stand up and scream, "I am who I am! Every last bit of me!"

But instead, I find myself folding, compartmentalizing, dividing, diluting, diffusing myself... When does trying to stay neat & tidy for the sake of others go from practical & considerate to undermining & abusive?

If I cannot wear all my hats at the same time (to try to do so would be spiteful and as uncomfortable as it is impractical), how do I manage to show them all off?

Or is this all rather like asking how to be a polite activist.

High-Five Friday

High-Five Fridays is on official hiatus; but you can still participate.

#1 Mad Kane gets a letter from Bob Newhart stating she's the winner of the 2008 Robert Benchley Society Award for Humor Competition.

I used to get letters from Ed McMahon saying I may already have been a winner ~ but even he doesn't write anymore, what with losing his house and all. I do still get many letters from prison; but I'm waiting to write more about that another time. So just enjoy Mad Kane and celebrate with her.

#2 GrrlScientist shocks and awes with A Handmaid's Tale Could Become Fact Instead of Fiction:

I find it astonishing that the federal government could regulate health care and reproductive choices based on a popularity contest!

(Hasn't this been a problem for awhile now? Even if this issue is too confusing for you ~ and "women's issues" generally create panic ~ look at evolution in schools.)

Since it is impossible to determine whether an egg has been fertilized, this means that a woman can never prove that she is not pregnant. As a result, it will be legal to block women's access to a tremendous variety of health services, treatments and medications under the guise that they "might possibly cause abortion."

Arrrgggggg!

#3 Dear Amber Rhea; I just love her. Here's one of her latest gems: Another kind of double standard.

“Just” sexually progressive? Oh lord…

#4 Elizabeth on Running Like A Girl:

"You run like a girl." It was an insult aimed at boys. Being "like a girl" was clearly a bad thing for a boy to be if he wanted to be an athlete. Not being enough "like a girl" on the other hand, is devastating for women.

#5 Last, but certainly not least, a huge high-five to Ivonne Lorena García the model in and photographer of the photos used for the XXBN blog header, buttons etc. She is known as shecomesincolors at DeviantArt and as Miss Pepper! at Flickr. You can buy prints of her works in her DeviantArt print shop ~ until I talk her into another sales option with larger sizes and more offerings. *wink* I can't thank her enough.