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Sex Positive Parenting Is More Than Possible

Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 06:30:00 +0000

If you're a parent & you listen to one Cult of Gracie radio show this year (and I don't know why you'd limit yourself to just one!), it should be this one: This Wednesday (November 12, from 9 to 10 PM Central time), the lovely Dr. Jane Vargas, of PantyMistress.com, returns to Cult of Gracie Radio with her sex positive feminist daughters, Rebecca of Porn Perspectives and Rachel aka the Pop Feminist.

You can read more at Sex-Kitten.

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 08:05:00 +0000

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I'm not sure, but I think I may be quitting. ...the rope looks long enough... #

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 08:12:00 +0000

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Men masturbate. As often as they feel like it. Even if you're fucking them nightly, your guy is going to masturbate. They masturbate because some erotic thought was stuck in their head too long; they masturbate because the hot water in the shower is just too relaxing; they masturbate because they're bored and you're not around and the History Channel had some show on about promiscuity among the Ancient Greeks. It's really got nothing to do with you.

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 07:54:00 +0000

I should have something to say these days, but I guess I'm all talked out post election. #
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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 07:56:00 +0000

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 07:59:00 +0000

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Post Election Night Notes

Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 18:02:00 +0000

Hallelujah! Obama is President-Elect! The shocking news had Jill & I darn near speechless on last night's XXBN show. But I did have celebratory sex last night, right after Obama's acceptance speech. There will be plenty of babes born in 9 months.

Sadly, Prop K did not pass; and Prop 8 is too close to call even now... You can follow the results at SFGate.

Many thanks to all those who called into the show last night ~ we're part of history!

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 08:00:00 +0000

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Election Night Coverage ~ And You're Invited

Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 21:44:00 +0000

You are invited to attend XXBN's Election Night Coverage.

When: November 4th, from 10 p.m. to Midnight (Eastern)

Where: On XXBN ~ listen live, talk in the chat room, & even be on-air!

Why: There's this little thing called a presidential election, as well as lots of local elections going on that night and we'll be bringing you the news, results and (fingers-crossed!) the laughs and sighs of relief. (If not we'll be crying, ranting, barfing... possibly renting U-Hauls to cross a border...)

Who: Along with you, of course, Gracie Passette & Jill Brenneman will play host to the always fabulous Nina Hartley, Jessie Daniels, and Prop K Proponent, Maxine Doogan ~ as well as a slew of other sex positive & liberal folks.

What: We'll be talking politics, propositions, and elections ~ on national and local levels.

Please join us ~ no need to RSVP, just be there.

Have something to say, pray, or, if you're really on a rant, spray? You can even join the show by calling in at 646.200.3136.

If you're looking for more info on Prop K, check out Amber Rhea's list of coverage & resources.

Image credits: Sadie Lune I Want You Poster Prop K Poster, San Francisco Museum of Modern Art

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 08:21:00 +0000

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You know, lots of older men date younger women just because they met a person they are attracted to & care about ~ age was, like hair color or bra cup size, just one aspect of who they were. You make those men take crap they don't deserve.

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 08:11:00 +0000

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 06:25:00 +0000

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 06:25:00 +0000

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 06:22:00 +0000

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 06:25:00 +0000

Why does today feel like it's part of Monday rather than its own day? #
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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 06:23:00 +0000

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 06:20:00 +0000

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Who's All Joining The Cult This Fall?

Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 23:33:00 +0000

Dr. Jane Vargas (of PantyMistress.com, X-traordinary Talk, and JaneVargas.com) was my very first Cult of Gracie guest. Jane rejoins The Cult this fall to discuss cross-dressing (CD) and so much more.

On October 29: Jane and I will discuss what being a cross dresser means (and what it doesn't), distinctions between lingerie fetishists and cross dressers, women's responses to CD, & how CD men cope with self-image.

On November 5: Jane on women and the underused but very powerful sexual expression of tease. (Don't forget to bring a mirror and wear your own slip, bra & panties to 'class' so you can practice *wink*)

On November 12: Jane returns with her daughters, Rebecca of www.pornperspectives.com and Rachel aka the Pop Feminist, to discuss raising intelligent, sex positive feminist, daughters. Her daughters will not sit idly by; they'll dish on the flip-side ~ growing up with Jane as a mom!

All shows are Wednesdays, from 9 to 10 PM Central time.

UPDATE:

Our apologies for the technical difficulties with tonight's (10/28/08) Cult of Gracie show with Dr. Jane Vargas. The show started late and I know that many of you were not able to get through on the air.

We will continue the cross dressing discussion with Jane next Wednesday, 11/05/08, a half hour earlier to try to accommodate you all. The show will begin at 8:30 pm central (9:30 pm eastern).

In attempts to alleviate any potential problems, please listen to the show, sign into chat, and await the announcement that the lines are open before calling in.

Again, we are very sorry for the issues with the show and hope you'll return next week to listen to & speak with Jane & I.

With much affection,
Gracie

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 07:12:00 +0000

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 06:21:00 +0000

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 07:11:00 +0000

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Cult Of Gracie: And Religion Taketh
Nearly 1/3 of those talking to their clergy have their diagnosed mental illness dismissed with a wave of the hand. No, that's not quite true... They are first told the medical diagnosis is wrong, then judged for "a personal sin, lack of faith or demonic involvement", and lastly told to say "Hail Mary" so many times, attend religious services more often, submit to the cat-o-nine tails, or otherwise participate in some ritual. Anyone else feel like comparing today's clergy to B-movie witch doctors?
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Researchers also found that religiosity doesn't have the same effect on use of illicit drugs such as cocaine and heroin. If marijuana and drinking are seen as 'grey areas', the 'black' areas of more hardcore drugs are, interestingly enough, little impacted by one's personal connection to their deity.
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And Religion Taketh

Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 04:29:00 +0000

Study Finds Serious Mental Illness Often Dismissed by Local Church:

In a recent Baylor study of 293 Christians who approached their local church for assistance in response to a personal or family member's diagnosed mental illness, Baylor researchers found that more than 32 percent of these church members were told by their church pastor that they or their loved one did not really have a mental illness. The study found these church members were told the cause of their problem was solely spiritual in nature, such as a personal sin, lack of faith or demonic involvement. Baylor researchers also found that women were more likely than men to have their mental disorders dismissed by the church.

In a subsequent survey, Baylor researchers found the dismissal or denial of the existence of mental illness happened more in conservative churches, rather than more liberal ones.

All of the participants in both studies were previously diagnosed by a licensed mental health provider as having a serious mental illness, like bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, prior to approaching their local church for assistance.

"The results are troubling because it suggests individuals in the local church are either denying or dismissing a somewhat high percentage of mental health diagnosis," said Dr. Matthew Stanford, professor of psychology and neuroscience at Baylor, who led the study. "Those whose mental illness is dismissed by clergy are not only being told they don't have a mental illness, they are also being told they need to stop taking their medication. That can be a very dangerous thing."

Let's recap, because I know I had difficulty believing this...

* Nearly 1/3 of those talking to their clergy have their diagnosed mental illness dismissed with a wave of the hand. No, that's not quite true... They are first told the medical diagnosis is wrong, then judged for "a personal sin, lack of faith or demonic involvement", and lastly told to say "Hail Mary" so many times, attend religious services more often, submit to the cat-o-nine tails, or otherwise participate in some ritual.

Anyone else feel like comparing today's clergy to B-movie witch doctors?

* The researchers found that women were more likely than men to have their mental disorders dismissed by the church. The sad thing here is that this does not surprise me at all. In fact, I bet the actual numbers/percents would make me ~~mentally ill~~ possessed by demons, with all the physical symptoms, like vomiting.

But perhaps the real kicker here is that those study participants who had their mental illness dismissed were also those in the study who attended church more than once a week, and described their church as "conservative or charismatic." Maybe those "charismatic clergy" just don't think there's enough room in their church for more than one crazy.

The good news here is that the Baylor study found those who had their mental illness dismissed or denied were less likely to attend church. (But many also stated that their faith in God was weakened; that's the problem with organized religion, people throw the deity out with the ~~bath~~ bad waters. However, at least they got away from the real craziness and now, perhaps, can find spirituality.)

A 32% dismissal/denial of mental illness would explain at least part of the problem of people in the pews. But as I've often seen the born-agains and other bible-thumpers prey on the weak, including the mentally ill, as part of their membership drive practices (i.e. convert quotas), I think we would have to call this prey-convert-dismissial-leaving as a serious turn-over problem management should address. Add it to the list of other serious moral issues churches have.

The study was done, in part, because research consistently showed that it is clergy ~ not psychologists or other mental health experts ~ who are sought most often in times of psychological distress. I guess because those with faith assume they can have faith in their clergy; I hope they (again) see the error of their ways.

The moral of the story: Stay on your meds, but get off the organized religion.

Religion Giveth, To Believers. Sorta.

Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 03:44:00 +0000

National study finds religiosity curbs teen marijuana use by half.

"Some may think this is an obvious finding, but research and expert opinion on this issue have not been consistent," said BYU sociology professor Stephen Bahr and an author on the study. "After we accounted for family and peer characteristics, and regardless of denomination, there was an independent effect that those who were religious were less likely to do drugs, even when their friends were users."

The study, co-authored by BYU sociologist John Hoffmann, also found individual religiosity buffered peer pressure for cigarette smoking and heavy drinking.

The term religiosity as used in the study has to do with people's participation in a religion and not the particular denomination. Hoffmann said the protective effect of church and spirituality supplements the influence of parents.

“Parents shouldn’t force it, but they can encourage spirituality and religion in their families, which in itself becomes a positive influence in their children’s lives,” Hoffmann said.

Researchers also found that religiosity doesn't have the same effect on use of illicit drugs such as cocaine and heroin. If marijuana and drinking are seen as 'grey areas', the 'black' areas of more hardcore drugs are, interestingly enough, little impacted by one's personal connection to their deity.

The study also exposed the fact that religiosity within the community as a whole does not play as big a role as thought by many.

"Previously, it was thought that if someone grew up in a religious community and went to church, then the community’s religious strength would make a difference,” Bahr said. “We basically found that this was not the case. Individual religiosity is what makes the difference."

The bottom line here seems to be that if & when a person believes in & practices a religion, that faith is extended into a confidence which combats peer pressure; however, just how to instill such faith (as opposed to indoctrination) is unclear.

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Gracie.Passette@gmail.com (Gracie Passette) — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 07:10:00 +0000

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